Most of the time when you meet someone for the first time, it is a bit shy to start a conversation and break the ice. And, I help with a list of 100 good questions to ask to get to know someone. They help you to make a good impression and you can expect more interesting conversations later.
Next time, when you come across a cute girl or boy on the street, be brave and get to know here!
Table of Contents
5 Steps to Get to Know Someone Better
If you are the kind of person who is hot and brave as Britney Spears, just get in front of him and say “Hi.” He might also have some feeling for you and you two will end up a lovey-dovey couple.
In case you do not know what to do, I recommend 5 winning steps and 100 get-to-know questions.
- Make it comfortable with a smile
- Start with small talks, about the weather – for example
- Move on with some good questions to ask to get to know someone
- Share about yourself and look for mutual interests, then open more
- Plan for group hangouts before preparing for the first official date
(In that case, you will want to know good questions to ask on a first date)
100+ Good Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone
“Get to know” questions via text or social chat
Honestly, most of us find it more open and easier to talk with strangers on social media and text rather than in a face-to-face conversation.
And you can ask your social friends questions like these:
Small talks about the personal information
- What’s your name/nickname?
- How old are you?
- Where do you live?
- Where do you go to study/work?
- How often do you on social media?
- Are you a morning bird or a night owl?
- Can I have some questions for you?
- Which is your trait, extroverted or introverted?
- Are you afraid of chatting with strangers?
- Are you willing to make friends in real life?
Questions on his/her interests
- What is your typical day like?
- How can you be so energetic? (I see your beautiful and bright face every day!)
- I figured out that you share Taylor Swift’s picture. Are you her fan?
- What kind of music do you like?
- Have you ever heard “Highway don’t care”, this is Taylor’s song featured with Tim McGraw?
- What does your latest sharing post mean? Are you happy/sad? Feel free to share it with me if you like?
- The island in your photos recently looks beautiful. Have you just come back from holiday?
- Where did you go and what was it like?
- Do you like traveling?
- Tell me your plan for the very next trip?
- What is your favorite book/author?
- What are you reading/listening to now?
- Do you play any sports?
- Which do you prefer: staying at home or hanging out with friends?
Deep questions about his/her personality
- What are five words you use to describe yourself?
- What are five words people near you describe you?
- Can you list 5 things do most people make mistakes about you?
- What can make you smile immediately?
- What can make you cry immediately?
- Do you have any pet peeve?
- What’s the silliest thing you opt-in (but you will not be disappointed)?
- What is your worst habit?
- Are you resentful and do you know how to let go of resentment?
- Under a bad mood, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
- Can you fill the blanks “You used to think …, but now I realize …”?
- Can you describe your life?
- What do you want to do more/less for the rest of your life, and why?
- Can you share the biggest thing you’ve done to change yourself?
- What is something that you desire to do, but you still can’t because of some fears?
His/her feeling for a new relationship
- What is your first crush?
- What kind of person will you find interesting?
- Do you bother with a guy/girl who asks you much, like me?
- What do you think about a relationship on social media?
- Do you have a true online friend?
- Are you willing to make a new friend who you do not know well?
- What do you think is the most important of a relationship?
- Who will be your best friend, I mean the quality of a friend?
- What do you expect from a romantic relationship?
- Can we chat more with each other?
Good Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone – Offline
It is hard to start a physical conversation with someone you haven’t talked to before or you even do not know him/her. However, believe me, a face-to-face meeting is way fun and helps you to get to know someone better, not from the communication they have with you – but also from their non-verbal language.
Yet, what are good questions to ask to get to know someone in real life?
First off, step back a minute to try figuring out what kind of person you are about to make friends with. Is she/he open or a little introvert?
Secondly, take steps forward and say “Hi, I’m Stephanie, ….” with a friendly smile.
Small talks – always do
- “Hi, I’m Stephanie.” You are?
- I’ve seen you several times, do you live/study or live near here?
- Do you have time for some small talks?
- Do you think that the weather today is extremely fine/terrible?
- What kind of weather do you like?
- So you seem not to get used to this kind of weather, exactly like me. In fact, I used to live it … where it is hotter than here. By the way, where is your hometown?
- How long have you been in this city?
- Do you know any interesting places near here?
- Is there any good coffee or restaurant that you recommend?
- So, do you want a cup of coffee now?
Open questions about herself/himself
- It is such an opportunity to get to know you. Can I ask you some more questions?
- You look happy all the time I see you. How can you be that cheerful?
- What is your hobby?
- What do you often do in your spare time?
- For the time being, do you read any books or movies?
- Do you prefer listening to music to reading books?
- What is your favorite singer/single?
- Have you heard the latest song by Taylor Swift?
- Do you play any sports or the like?
- You seem to be under weather today, is there anything I can do to help you?
- So you feel down a little bit with your work. What is your job now?
- Why do you lack passion for your work? It is because of the work itself, the working environment, your colleagues, or what else?
- Is there anything that can make you happy right now?
- Do you need someone who encourages you? I’m a good listener and adviser, I believe.
Invest in mutual interests
- Did you happen to notice me before?
- What is your first impression on me?
- Do you want me to share something about myself in return?
- Know what? I’m a fan of Taylor, too
- I also read the book … before. What is your favorite character?
- Do you think that would be better if the stores ended like ….?
- I totally agree with you that The Diary of a Young Girl is a life book. Do you know that ….?
- I have not read it yet. Can I borrow you later?
- So you also prefer traveling somewhere when you are stressed?
- How many countries have you been to?
- Can you suggest some interesting places for my very next trip?
- Oh great! Japan is really interesting. How many times have you got there?
- How are people and life?
- What should I prepare for that trip?
- Where is likely to be your next place?
Keep in the right touch
- I wish to talk with you more. How often do you get here?
- Next time, can we continue our talks if we meet each other?
- About the coffee shop you recommended to me earlier, can I invite you there someday?
- About the restaurant you recommended to me earlier, would you like to eat out there with me next week?
- Do you bother making friends with me?
- Can I have your phone number?
- Should we add each other on Facebook or Twitter?
- Can I text you when you have free time?
- Can I invite you out next time?
100. Do You Take Notes All?
Good luck with good questions to ask to get to know someone (I called them to get to know questions, for short.) Obviously, you can not ask all of them in the conversation and you also need to change the topics a little bit. But anyway, they are still helpful, right?
So like and share the tips with others as well!
